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For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, Carol Diehl. (via ashemo)
So for those of you who don’t know, I was [sexually harassed today].
And then I saw this girl slut-shaming on facebook right after that…and that triggered me.
(read this from right to left)
So I spent a long ass time of my life convincing her that
a) slut and victim shaming is wrong
b) wearing revealing clothing should not merit harassment
c) wearing modest clothing does not all ways NOT bring about harassment
i) there is no way to prevent harassment
d) wearing revealing clothing or wearing modest clothing is fine…just as long as the woman or person of another gender has the choice to choose between the two by herself
So, today, I’ve been fighting street harassment and stopping victim/slut shaming all in one day, so I’ve decided I am…*drumroll*…Social Justice Girl! :)
You’ll notice the only thing men had to contribute to the conversation was guffawing about “tits”
It’s pretty sad how people of all genders, not just men, can’t take serious conversations seriously.
Jesus fucking Christ I wanna punch that Caroline chick in the mouth
Compare/contrast.
Unfortunately, I experienced first-hand the terror of street harassment today. It’s not a compliment. It was not invited. And it’s not something that should be ignored.
Harassing someone on the street =//= a compliment. Learn why it’s wrong on every level.
Educate yourself.
Everyone reblog this! I know this girl…what she experienced is NOT OKAY! We all need to be able to speak up about sexual harassment.
The conversation above took place on the wall of the facebook group, Questioning Slutwalk, which describes itself as a page focussed on analysing the motives and impacts of the Slutwalk Campaign. Slutwalk, which originated in Toronto, Canada, is a worldwide civilian-run campaign that targets rape culture and asserts that a person’s dress, occupation, state of intoxication, etc. never makes sex without consent permissible. Please note that this statement is not exclusive to the sexual assault of women by men — it covers the whole spectrum of genders because the issue here is not the gender of the victim: the bottom line is simply that rape is wrong and that we live in a rape culture that affects everyone regardless of gender.
However, instead of creating an open dialogue on the topic it claims to be centred on, the administrator and the group members of Questioning Slutwalk only post articles and commentary of an unforgivable misogynist, rape-apologist, and slut shaming ideology. Questioning Slutwalk has created a rhetoric that (inaccurately) paints the Slutwalk Campaign as a movement that encourages and perpetuates the sexual abuse of men.
Group members outright reject the reasoned opinions of others who try to explain the purpose of Slutwalk, proclaiming them to be female supremacists, misandrists, rape apologists, and deniers of male rape by women. The group members despise women and think little of the notion of female consent, while simultaneously complaining about the oppression of men by women, rape culture as a creation of female supremacists, and the sexual objectification and abuse of men by women.
Now, I will never deny that men get sexually assaulted and raped by women. It is a true piece of information and it is horrific. It is also just as true and horrific a fact as the reality of the sexual assaults and rapes of women by men, or of men by men, or of any other imaginable gender combination. I will never say that the sexual assault of men is not a huge problem; it is extremely underreported and it is traumatising to the victims. That said, I have a serious issue with the way this group conducts itself. The administrator states that the page is supposed to be a safe place for male survivors, but the administrator completely disregards the hostility directed at both women and female survivors (genders that are outside of the binary are completely unaddressed). Male survivors should and need to have a support group, but this is not the group they need. This group simultaneously accuses the entire female population of being predators and attacks female survivors, viciously stating that they deserve sexual assault because of their actions, dress, etc.
This is completely unacceptable.
One cannot claim that the sexual assaults suffered by one specific group is any more traumatic or serious than another’s. While the scale may vary, rape is still rape, and it is a horrible crime that should never be treated with such disrespect.
EDIT: As of this morning, the conversation above has been deleted from Questioning Slutwalk’s page, which, according to Questioning Questioning Slutwalk, is a common occurrence. Additionally, Chandrapal S Bhasker has blocked Sara and left another charming post.
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The Purity Myth
If you’re a female this should concern and frighten you in a big way.
Reblogging to watch later.
Jessica Valenti is amazing, and I need to see this whole thing.
So many of the clips shown make me feel sick.
I’m glad there’s someone pointing out that intelligence compassion etc is more important than what one does with their body.
I hope they point out the double standards between women and men as well.
obviously they should tell kids that abstinence is really the only way to prevent pregnancy (but not put such a heavy moral meaning on it), but they also need to teach safe sex
because really
MY FEMALE FOLLOWERS! WATCH THIS!I don’t like this at all.
Especially because I live in the south, this is a HUGE thing for me. I get told all the time that I look promiscuous because I dress a certain way, that I’m never going to get a boyfriend because I express my ideas freely. But this? This is so much more than that. It’s frightening, that people think just because a woman has sex she’s not as good as someone else. That’s really frightening to me.
This here is one of the reasons I sometimes hate my own continent.
It really, really scares me that people still think feminism is a horrible thing. Feminism is really about choice when it comes down to it.
If you want to wait until you’re married to have sex, that’s cool. I commend your self control. If you choose to have sex before marriage? That’s fine too. As long as you’re smart about it, I don’t see an issue. Don’t want to get married at all? That’s totally ok. Do what’s right for you. Not what everyone tells you to do.
everyone should watch this, male or female.
it’s a serious problem and the first step to change is becoming educated on the topic.
would love to watch this whole film.
Vagina is not a bad word. It is actually the medical term for lady parts. The fact that anyone would bar someone for using it in a discussion centered on abortion tells me that the debate isn’t about abortion. It is, once again, about controlling and oppressing women.
(Source: sandandglass)
I, and many mothers of my generation, thought that when our daughters came of age, they would enter a world of unprecedented equality, with autonomy over their own bodies and life choices, and the guarantee they would be paid according to their value in the workplace, not by virtue of their genitalia. So how does reality stack up to that twenty-year-old belief?
To borrow from a movie title from those early 90s, reality bites. Not only haven’t rights and opportunities for women in this country improved, they are on the decline. The world our daughters are inheriting looks like the one in which our mothers or even our grandmothers came of age. In 2011, the year my daughter graduated from college, state legislatures enacted 83 laws to restrict or even eliminate access to abortions. In the first three months of 2012, 944 bills were introduced in state legislatures related to reproductive health and rights, targeting access to birth control as well as abortions.
Not content to limiting their attacks on women to the female body, several states have moved onto the workplace, with Wisconsin Republicans leading the charge to eviscerate federal statutes, including the 2009 Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, that require equal pay for equal work.
This should serve as some kind of reminder.
We must also remember that this doesn’t only apply to women.
If anyone wants it, here’s a link to the Rolling Stone page with the quote.