What if all women were bigger and stronger than you? And thought they were smarter? What if women were the ones who started wars? What if too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos and no K-Y Jelly? What if the state trooper who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike was a woman and carried a gun? What if the ability to menstruate was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs? What if your attractiveness to women depended on the size of your penis? What if every time women saw you they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands? What if women were always making jokes about how ugly penises are and how bad sperm tastes? What if you had to explain what’s wrong with your car to big sweaty women with greasy hands who stared at your crotch in a garage where you are surrounded by posters of naked men with hard-ons? What if men’s magazines featured cover photos of 14-year-old boys with socks tucked into the front of their jeans and articles like: “How to tell if your wife is unfaithful” or “What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate” or “The truth about impotence”? What if the doctor who examined your prostate was a woman and called you “Honey”? What if you had to inhale your boss’ stale cigar breath as she insisted that sleeping with her was part of the job? What if you couldn’t get away because the company dress code required you wear shoes designed to keep you from running? And what if after all that women still wanted you to love them?
So for those of you who don’t know, I was [sexually harassed today].
And then I saw this girl slut-shaming on facebook right after that…and that triggered me.
(read this from right to left)
So I spent a long ass time of my life convincing her that
a) slut and victim shaming is wrong
b) wearing revealing clothing should not merit harassment
c) wearing modest clothing does not all ways NOT bring about harassment
i) there is no way to prevent harassment
d) wearing revealing clothing or wearing modest clothing is fine…just as long as the woman or person of another gender has the choice to choose between the two by herself
So, today, I’ve been fighting street harassment and stopping victim/slut shaming all in one day, so I’ve decided I am…*drumroll*…Social Justice Girl! :)
You’ll notice the only thing men had to contribute to the conversation was guffawing about “tits”
It’s pretty sad how people of all genders, not just men, can’t take serious conversations seriously.
Jesus fucking Christ I wanna punch that Caroline chick in the mouth
Unfortunately, I experienced first-hand the terror of street harassment today. It’s not a compliment. It was not invited. And it’s not something that should be ignored.
Harassing someone on the street =//= a compliment. Learn why it’s wrong on every level.
Everyone reblog this! I know this girl…what she experienced is NOT OKAY! We all need to be able to speak up about sexual harassment.
The conversation above took place on the wall of the facebook group, Questioning Slutwalk, which describes itself as a page focussed on analysing the motives and impacts of the Slutwalk Campaign. Slutwalk, which originated in Toronto, Canada, is a worldwide civilian-run campaign that targets rape culture and asserts that a person’s dress, occupation, state of intoxication, etc. never makes sex without consent permissible. Please note that this statement is not exclusive to the sexual assault of women by men — it covers the whole spectrum of genders because the issue here is not the gender of the victim: the bottom line is simply that rape is wrong and that we live in a rape culture that affects everyone regardless of gender.
However, instead of creating an open dialogue on the topic it claims to be centred on, the administrator and the group members of Questioning Slutwalk only post articles and commentary of an unforgivable misogynist, rape-apologist, and slut shaming ideology. Questioning Slutwalk has created a rhetoric that (inaccurately) paints the Slutwalk Campaign as a movement that encourages and perpetuates the sexual abuse of men.
Group members outright reject the reasoned opinions of others who try to explain the purpose of Slutwalk, proclaiming them to be female supremacists, misandrists, rape apologists, and deniers of male rape by women. The group members despise women and think little of the notion of female consent, while simultaneously complaining about the oppression of men by women, rape culture as a creation of female supremacists, and the sexual objectification and abuse of men by women.
Now, I will never deny that men get sexually assaulted and raped by women. It is a true piece of information and it is horrific. It is also just as true and horrific a fact as the reality of the sexual assaults and rapes of women by men, or of men by men, or of any other imaginable gender combination. I will never say that the sexual assault of men is not a huge problem; it is extremely underreported and it is traumatising to the victims. That said, I have a serious issue with the way this group conducts itself. The administrator states that the page is supposed to be a safe place for male survivors, but the administrator completely disregards the hostility directed at both women and female survivors (genders that are outside of the binary are completely unaddressed). Male survivors should and need to have a support group, but this is not the group they need. This group simultaneously accuses the entire female population of being predators and attacks female survivors, viciously stating that they deserve sexual assault because of their actions, dress, etc.
This is completely unacceptable.
One cannot claim that the sexual assaults suffered by one specific group is any more traumatic or serious than another’s. While the scale may vary, rape is still rape, and it is a horrible crime that should never be treated with such disrespect.
EDIT: As of this morning, the conversation above has been deleted from Questioning Slutwalk’s page, which, according to Questioning Questioning Slutwalk, is a common occurrence. Additionally, Chandrapal S Bhasker has blocked Sara and left another charming post.
The Purity Myth
If you’re a female this should concern and frighten you in a big way.
Reblogging to watch later.
Jessica Valenti is amazing, and I need to see this whole thing.
So many of the clips shown make me feel sick.
I’m glad there’s someone pointing out that intelligence compassion etc is more important than what one does with their body.
I hope they point out the double standards between women and men as well.
obviously they should tell kids that abstinence is really the only way to prevent pregnancy (but not put such a heavy moral meaning on it), but they also need to teach safe sex
MY FEMALE FOLLOWERS! WATCH THIS!
I don’t like this at all.
Especially because I live in the south, this is a HUGE thing for me. I get told all the time that I look promiscuous because I dress a certain way, that I’m never going to get a boyfriend because I express my ideas freely. But this? This is so much more than that. It’s frightening, that people think just because a woman has sex she’s not as good as someone else. That’s really frightening to me.
This here is one of the reasons I sometimes hate my own continent.
It really, really scares me that people still think feminism is a horrible thing. Feminism is really about choice when it comes down to it.
If you want to wait until you’re married to have sex, that’s cool. I commend your self control. If you choose to have sex before marriage? That’s fine too. As long as you’re smart about it, I don’t see an issue. Don’t want to get married at all? That’s totally ok. Do what’s right for you. Not what everyone tells you to do.
everyone should watch this, male or female.
it’s a serious problem and the first step to change is becoming educated on the topic.
would love to watch this whole film.
Vagina is not a bad word. It is actually the medical term for lady parts. The fact that anyone would bar someone for using it in a discussion centered on abortion tells me that the debate isn’t about abortion. It is, once again, about controlling and oppressing women.
I, and many mothers of my generation, thought that when our daughters came of age, they would enter a world of unprecedented equality, with autonomy over their own bodies and life choices, and the guarantee they would be paid according to their value in the workplace, not by virtue of their genitalia. So how does reality stack up to that twenty-year-old belief?
To borrow from a movie title from those early 90s, reality bites. Not only haven’t rights and opportunities for women in this country improved, they are on the decline. The world our daughters are inheriting looks like the one in which our mothers or even our grandmothers came of age. In 2011, the year my daughter graduated from college, state legislatures enacted 83 laws to restrict or even eliminate access to abortions. In the first three months of 2012, 944 bills were introduced in state legislatures related to reproductive health and rights, targeting access to birth control as well as abortions.
Not content to limiting their attacks on women to the female body, several states have moved onto the workplace, with Wisconsin Republicans leading the charge to eviscerate federal statutes, including the 2009 Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, that require equal pay for equal work.
ARE THEY SERIOUS?
Here is just some of the shit that made me exclaim aloud ‘ARE YOU SERIOUS??’
‘“Rape and incest was used as a reason to oppose this,” said state Sen. Chuck Winder (R). “I would hope that when a woman goes in to a physician with a rape issue, that physician will indeed ask her about perhaps her marriage, was this pregnancy caused by normal relations in a marriage or was it truly caused by a rape. I assume that’s part of the counseling that goes on.”
The odds that a woman who is raped will get pregnant are “one in millions and millions and millions,” said state Rep. Stephen Freind, R-Delaware County, the Legislature’s leading abortion foe.
The reason, Freind said, is that the traumatic experience of rape causes a woman to “secrete a certain secretion” that tends to kill sperm.’
Secretary Of State Hillary Clinton
Great speech by Hilary Clinton. We also need to keep in mind that while we are calling for America to “set an example” this must not, and can not translate into “Americans telling women in other countries how to fight for their own rights” and keep this as a focus on analyzing what is going on in America, and even how America exports damaging and exotifying images & beliefs about other women all over the world. We can set an example by handling our business in house while still aknowledging our complicity in the subjagation of the “exotic other” overseas that we do on a daily basis.
Why extremists always focus on women remains a mystery to me, but they all seem to. It doesn’t matter what country they’re in or what religion they claim, they all want to control women. They want to control how we dress, they want to control how we act, they even want to control the decisions we make about our own health and our own bodies. Yes, it is hard to believe. But even here at home, we have to stand up for women’s rights and reject efforts to marginalize any one of us because America needs to set an example for the entire world.
The Right Wing decided it wanted to play Monday Morning Quarterback with my lady parts this year. It seems like an odd choice for a recreational activity, especially since there’s no legislative or medical reason to suddenly introduce radically restrictive and dangerous legislation on women’s health and bodies. Maybe someone should introduce them to Pinterest instead.
Here are our Top 10 Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Attacks on Women’s Rights (just in the last 6 months!)
- The Blunt Amendment. Reasonable religious exemptions weren’t enough for Roy Blunt. This amendment would have allowed your employer – not your doctor - to decide what kind of health care you could get based on his or her own personal moral or religious convictions.
- The All-Male Birth Control Panel, or the Man Panel. Congressman Darrell Issa convened a panel to discuss the coverage of birth control – but refused to include any women.
- Susan G. Komen Foundation defunds Planned Parenthood. Komen opted to cut off funding to the largest provider of reproductive health services in the US because of their new VP’s objection to a mere 3% of their activities.
- Rush Limbaugh Calls Sandra Fluke a Prostitute and a Slut. After Sandra Fluke stood up for women everywhere, Rush Limbaugh took to the airwaves and called her a prostitute and a slut for speaking out in favor of birth control coverage. He also said she should have to put videos of her having sex online to compensate the taxpayers who “are going to pay for your contraceptives.” Classy.
- Forced Trans-Vaginal Ultrasounds. Republican legislators in Virginia invited the commonwealth into the exam room when they proposed a bill that would require women seeking abortions to undergo an invasive, medically-unnecessary vaginal probe before their procedure.
- Texas defunds Planned Parenthood. Under Governor Rick Perry, the state of Texas banned funding to Planned Parenthood because it provides abortion services. In the end, though, this fight has only served to hurt low-income women looking for breast cancer screenings, birth control and pap smears.
- Women in the Military Should “Expect” to be Raped. Responding to a 64% increase in the reports of rape and violent sexual assaults in the military, Fox News pundit Liz Trotta responds, “What did they expect?” She goes on to say that there is a bureaucracy of people to support these women who are being “raped too much.”
- Foster Friess Suggests Women Put Aspirin Between Their Knees. Rick Santorum supporter, Foster Friess, reminisced about back in his day when ladies put aspirin between their knees for birth control. Back in his day, people also died of polio.
- Santorum wants to deny birth control coverage because he thinks it’s available and affordable. Despite the fact that most forms of birth control still require a prescription and 1 in 3 women have reported struggling to afford birth control. Santorum feels there is no barrier to access, so it shouldn’t be covered by insurance.
- Mitt Romney doesn’t understand a woman’s reproductive system. Romney has publicly supported “personhood amendments,” which would ban abortion by declaring life begins at conception. When asked about how this affects birth control, Romney seemed to be completely unaware that hormonal forms of birth control stop implantation, not conception and would be banned under any personhood amendment.
And it’s only the middle of March.
A proposed new law in Arizona would give employers the power to require women being prescribed birth control pills provide proof that they’re using it for non-sexual reasons. Imagine getting fired for using birth control pills.
The Senate Judiciary Committee voted 6-2 Monday to endorse a controversial bill that would allow Arizona employers the right to deny health insurance coverage for contraceptives based on religious objections.
Arizona House Bill 2625, authored by Majority Whip Debbie Lesko, R-Glendale, would permit employers to ask their employees for proof of medical prescription if they seek contraceptives for non-reproductive purposes, such as hormone control or acne treatment.
… “My whole legislation is about our First Amendment rights and freedom of religion,” Lesko said. “All my bill does is that an employer can opt out of the mandate if they have any religious objections.
And because Arizona’s an at-will employment state, that means that bosses critical of their female employees’ sex lives could fire them as a result.
It’s all about freedom, (Lasko) said, echoing everyone who thinks there’s nothing ironic about claiming that a country that’s “free” allows people’s bosses to dictate what medical care is available to them through insurance. First amendment. The constitution. Rights of religious people to practice the treasured tenets of their faiths, the tenets that dictate that religious people get to tell everyone who is not of faith how they’re supposed to live, and the freedom to have that faith enforced by law. Freedom®.
The funniest part of this incredible story is that lawmaker Lesko says the bill is necessary because “we live in America; we don’t live in the Soviet Union.”
What is in the water out there in Arizona?
Whether an abortion is tragic or even sad depends on how the woman feels about being pregnant. If there’s some part of her that wants to have a baby, it’s going to be a tougher decision than if she is absolutely sure she doesn’t want to be pregnant right now.
There’s a lot of social pressure on women to act as if they’re at least somewhat sad about having an abortion. That’s why I admire Marie Annelle so much. This young Canadian mother of two liveblogged her abortion. It’s a brave thing to go public with any abortion story, but it’s especially brave to come right out and say that you’re having an abortion and you’re not the least bit sad about it.
No pro-choicer is going to credit a first trimester embryo or fetus with personhood or even awareness. Unless you want to make an argument about the intrinsic value of the fetus, it is condescending to assert that abortion is always tragic regardless of how the woman feels about it. So, if a woman isn’t especially sad about the abortion, where does the tragedy come into it?
You can say that the embryo is a potential life, but that’s not enough to raise abortion to the status of tragedy in itself.