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Men who want to flirt with women have to realize: Women live in a state of continual vigilance about sexual safety. It’s like having a mild case of hay fever that never goes away. It’s not debilitating. You’re not weak. You’re not afraid. You just suck it up and get on with your life. It’s nothing that’s going to stop you from making discoveries, or climbing mountains, or falling in love. Sometimes you can almost forget about it. It doesn’t mean it’s not there, subtly sucking your energy. You learn to avoid situations that make it worse and seek out conditions that make it better.
If a female stranger is wary around you, it is not because she suspects you are a rapist, or that all men are rapists. It’s because a general level of circumspection is what vigilance requires. Don’t take it personally.
If this frustrates you, try to remember that women are blamed for lapsed vigilance. If a woman does get raped, everyone rushes to see where she let her guard down. Was she drinking? Was she alone? Was she wearing a short skirt? Did she go to a strange man’s room for coffee at 4am?
A woman must be seen to be vigilant as well as be vigilant. If she is deemed insufficiently vigilant, she will be at least partly blamed for any sexual violence that befalls her. If she’s regarded as downright reckless, that “evidence” can be used to completely exonerate her rapist. If it comes down to a he said/she said dispute over whether sex was consensual, as so many rape cases do, the dispute becomes a referendum on whether the woman seems like the sort of reckless person who would have sex with a stranger.
If a woman does go back to a strange man’s hotel room at 4am, even if she only wants a coffee and conversation, she’s more or less given him the power to rape her. No jury is going to believe she went up there for anything but sex. So, don’t be surprised if a stranger reacts badly to that suggestion.
It’s funny how when debating with someone about abortion the first thing they say is usually along the lines of, “Well when you have women being raped and poking themselves with metal clothes hangers, there’s an issue. Every woman should have the right to choose and the government should keep their big noses out of it.”
Rape is only 1% of all abortion cases. Even if it was okay to have abortion because of a rape case, that still wouldn’t make any significant difference in the amount of abortions per year.
Also, when I’m talking about abortion, I’m not talking about the government. Sure, they usually get involved somehow or another, but I’m talking about a morally issue. Having an abortion is killing a human being.
That 1% still really, really matters. Anybody that wants an abortion should be able to get one because we all have the right to disallow the use of our bodies.
I don’t see how you don’t understand that forcing someone to remain pregnant against their will is torture.
This is absolutely disgusting. OP, if you actually read the article, you would realize that while 1% might seem like a low number to you, it’s roughly 16,000 abortions that occurred due to cases of rape or incest.
16,000 people. You can’t just fucking IGNORE that number, jesus christ.
And this was probably the most disgusting bit of the article:
”Reporting to public health authorities could mean just telling an abortion clinic,” said Mr. Johnson. ”Pennsylvania used to allow funding for abortions where the pregnancy was due to rape or incest, and pro-abortion groups made it an open invitation to assert that you’d been raped if you wanted an abortion.
”Last year, when the Pennsylvania Legislature modified the law to say it only covered rape or incest reported to law-enforcement authorities, the number of publicly funded abortions dropped from 35 a month to 3.”
The rates dropped NOT because women had been lying about being raped before, which is what this article and you (inherently, by using it as your “source”) more than implying. Are you unaware of how many rapes go unreported? Or more importantly, the reasons why? Intimidation or blackmail—or, most often, shame, because rape cases are treated miserably.
Only 46 out of every 100 rapes are ever reported to the police. Only 12 lead to arrest. Only 9 rapists are prosecuted. Only 5 cases end with a Felony conviction. Oh, and only 3 out of every 100 rapists will ever spend more than a single day in prison. [Source] The “law” is NOT on the side of victims, so of-fucking-COURSE they’re going to feel a million times more comfortable reporting their tragedy to a clinic or some place far more understanding and sympathetic than the defunct, bullshit excuse we’ve got for a legal system, where they’re more likely to be laughed out of the room than not, and often accompanied by a healthy does of victim-blaming.
This entire article is absolutely disgusting, and you OP, are disgusting for promoting it. I’m sorry that 16,000 people are insignificant to you, but luckily they are not to people who actually want to help them—not sit around and say “Well sorry ‘bout your luck!”
Fuck off OP. Fuck. Off.
What Brittany said.
Your worth is not based on how you look or how you dress. It is not based on whether or not you look or act “promiscuously” or “pure”. It is not based on how many sexual partners you have had, who they were, or whether or not you were in a monogamous relationship with them. If you have had several sexual partners or very few sexual partners it will not affect the quality of the people you choose to be with and it will not affect anyone’s ability to love you. If someone truly loves you, they will love you regardless. Having a lot of sex or having no sex doesn’t mean you’re insecure. Making personal choices regarding your sex life doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means that you’re strong enough to make the choices that are best for you and your life.