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#misogyny

wtfniceguys:

thepandaspensieve:

yellow-dress:


NICE GUY ALERT
This dude comments on a video made about violence against women [TW for the video] and his valuable opinion is that “[abusive relationships] ruins great women for us nice guys”. 
Forget about women’s personal health and wellbeing after being in an abusive relationship, noooo, the most IMPORTANT thing is that they aren’t RUINED coz all those poor nice guys don’t want “ruined” women. Won’t someone please think of us nice guys!?!?11


Chris Hernandez of Platinum Jewelers does not care about women.  He thinks women in abuse relationships are ‘weak’ and cares more about not having to deal with their ‘drama’ than preventing the pain and suffering they might feel.
That’s Chris Hernandez, Store Manager at Platinum Jewelers.

Right, Chris Hernandez, women are only here as some sort of reward, and as we know, the “great” ones are few and far between. It’s why these “great women” need to leave abusive relationships and run to you, because you’re such a Nice Guy™. (not-so-great women, you can just stay where you are, apparently.) 
The worst part of this is the use of the word “ruin”. Like women are cars or shoes, and once we’ve been used up, well, we’re “ruined” and not worth anything anymore.  

wtfniceguys:

thepandaspensieve:

yellow-dress:

NICE GUY ALERT

This dude comments on a video made about violence against women [TW for the video] and his valuable opinion is that “[abusive relationships] ruins great women for us nice guys”. 

Forget about women’s personal health and wellbeing after being in an abusive relationship, noooo, the most IMPORTANT thing is that they aren’t RUINED coz all those poor nice guys don’t want “ruined” women. Won’t someone please think of us nice guys!?!?11

Chris Hernandez of Platinum Jewelers does not care about women.  He thinks women in abuse relationships are ‘weak’ and cares more about not having to deal with their ‘drama’ than preventing the pain and suffering they might feel.

That’s Chris Hernandez, Store Manager at Platinum Jewelers.

Right, Chris Hernandez, women are only here as some sort of reward, and as we know, the “great” ones are few and far between. It’s why these “great women” need to leave abusive relationships and run to you, because you’re such a Nice Guy™. (not-so-great women, you can just stay where you are, apparently.) 

The worst part of this is the use of the word “ruin”. Like women are cars or shoes, and once we’ve been used up, well, we’re “ruined” and not worth anything anymore.  

Men’s rights groups, convinced that men are the biggest victims of modern society, have been busy attacking, defunding, and repealing laws that have been very effective at protecting women and lowering rates of domestic violence. They’re wrong and they’re dangerous and they need to be stopped.

stfuconservatives:

(trigger warning for generalized MRA bullshit)

abaldwin360:

(Boston Magazine) - If your last memory of men’s groups is Robert Bly and the boys banging on drums in the woods, you likely have no idea how the movement has mutated. Today, men’s rights groups tend to be organized around the belief that this country has launched a “war on fatherhood.” To them, the rise of feminism resulted in the fall of man, with males now being relegated to the periphery of society. In their eyes, the media portray men as feckless buffoons, legislative bodies unfairly target them, and biased courts blindly punish guiltless husbands. (Full disclosure: I was a producer of the 2011 documentary No Way Out But One, which examined the family court system.)

Nationally, groups like Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE) and A Voice for Men have helped slow the renewal of the Violence Against Women Act—which would provide $660 million in funding for shelters, legal aid, and other programs to protect battered women—by convincing conservative House Republicans that the law shouldn’t include immigrants, Native Americans, and LGBT victims. SAVE claims the law is biased, noting in a fact sheet titled “Seven Key Facts About Domestic Violence” that “female initiation of partner violence is the leading reason for the woman becoming a victim of subsequent violence.” In other words: She was asking for it, officer.

read the full article

“If women really were fated to be significantly more anxious than men, we would expect them to start showing this nervousness at a very young age, right? Yet precisely the opposite is true: According to the UCLA anxiety expert Michelle Craske, in the first few months of infants’ lives, it’s boys who show greater emotional neediness. While girls become slightly more prone to negative feelings than boys at two years (which, coincidentally, is the age at which kids begin learning gender roles), research has shown that up until age 11, girls and boys are equally likely to develop an anxiety disorder. By age 15, however, girls are six times more likely to have one than boys are.”

Taylor Clark (via mindovermatterzine)

Wow: This quote I posted the other day now has 1100+ notes. I think the gendering of anxiety is really hitting home with a lot of people.

(via mindovermatterzine)

That, and the age thing really resonates with me because it is spot on from my experience.

(via redefiningbodyimage)

“Poor nutrition and a sedentary lifestyle do cause health problems, in people of all sizes. This is why it’s so fucking crucial to separate the concept of “obesity” from “eating crap and not exercising.” The two are simply not synonymous — not even close — and it’s not only incredibly offensive but dangerous for thin people to keep pretending that they are. There are thin people who eat crap and don’t exercise — and are thus putting their health at risk — and there are fat people who treat their bodies very well but remain fat. Really truly.”

– Kate Harding (via lavenderlabia)

magical-girls:

resisterr:

afutureforthekrogan:

inspectingyourpickle:

ahh-yes-reapers:

wdya:

thesuperboymatch:

impulsivekidflash:


nothingsgoingtochange:

Someone give this guy a motherfuckin’ certificate.


I reblog every time





And that is why you can’t have nice things. Bitch.

What’s most depressing is that 23 people like the original status and no one liked the comment.

Friendzoning is so legit guise.

I think you missed the point. That girl was beign a complete bitch, she took his gifts and used him. 

But he was doing all of this, expecting something in return - a relationship.  He begged their science teacher to let him partner up with her - for what reason? For her to hang out with him. That was the only way he could see her hanging out with him and even then it failed. He continued to be “nice” to her all those years but why? What reason could possibly motivate him? He expected something from her. Whether that be a friendship or a romantic partnership, she made it very obvious she didn’t want any part of it. Should she have taken the shit he gave to her? It was free, and seemingly done without any kind of strings or expectations to return the favor in any way. I mean, this guy is as rotten as people believe the girl to be. He was relentless and gave her things expecting something in return. That is not nice. That is manipulative. And look at how he used it against her, when it was his own fault for pursuing someone who obviously took no interest in pursuing him back.
That’s why I mentioned friendzoning. This type of behaviour is always connected to the mythical event of friendzoning (aka demonizing women* for rejecting people who do “nice” things for them).

emphasis by me
“GIrls are so meeeaeaeaeaaaaaaAAANNNN THEY WONT GO OUT WITH ME !!”

It’s ridiculous because while he’s trying to show off how nice he is and what a jerk she is, he looks (to me) like an obsessive stalker who doesn’t know how to take a hint. She might be someone who just doesn’t know how to say no and hates confrontation. I can relate because I am someone like that, and it is mostly because I had a really negative experience with saying no (hint: guy didn’t back off and it became a traumatic event for me.) 
Listen nice guys (tm), the fact that you feel entitled enough to pursue a girl who clearly has no interest in you IS NOT HER PROBLEM. Toby’s not a nice guy. He just publicly humiliated this girl because she wouldn’t return his affections. She didn’t have to flat out say no to him. Her ACTIONS convey the fact that she was not interested.

magical-girls:

resisterr:

afutureforthekrogan:

inspectingyourpickle:

ahh-yes-reapers:

wdya:

thesuperboymatch:

impulsivekidflash:

nothingsgoingtochange:

Someone give this guy a motherfuckin’ certificate.

I reblog every time

And that is why you can’t have nice things. Bitch.

What’s most depressing is that 23 people like the original status and no one liked the comment.

Friendzoning is so legit guise.

I think you missed the point. That girl was beign a complete bitch, she took his gifts and used him. 

But he was doing all of this, expecting something in return - a relationship.  He begged their science teacher to let him partner up with her - for what reason? For her to hang out with him. That was the only way he could see her hanging out with him and even then it failed. He continued to be “nice” to her all those years but why? What reason could possibly motivate him? He expected something from her. Whether that be a friendship or a romantic partnership, she made it very obvious she didn’t want any part of it. Should she have taken the shit he gave to her? It was free, and seemingly done without any kind of strings or expectations to return the favor in any way. I mean, this guy is as rotten as people believe the girl to be. He was relentless and gave her things expecting something in return. That is not nice. That is manipulative. And look at how he used it against her, when it was his own fault for pursuing someone who obviously took no interest in pursuing him back.

That’s why I mentioned friendzoning. This type of behaviour is always connected to the mythical event of friendzoning (aka demonizing women* for rejecting people who do “nice” things for them).

emphasis by me

“GIrls are so meeeaeaeaeaaaaaaAAANNNN THEY WONT GO OUT WITH ME !!”

It’s ridiculous because while he’s trying to show off how nice he is and what a jerk she is, he looks (to me) like an obsessive stalker who doesn’t know how to take a hint. She might be someone who just doesn’t know how to say no and hates confrontation. I can relate because I am someone like that, and it is mostly because I had a really negative experience with saying no (hint: guy didn’t back off and it became a traumatic event for me.) 

Listen nice guys (tm), the fact that you feel entitled enough to pursue a girl who clearly has no interest in you IS NOT HER PROBLEM. Toby’s not a nice guy. He just publicly humiliated this girl because she wouldn’t return his affections. She didn’t have to flat out say no to him. Her ACTIONS convey the fact that she was not interested.

tw: discussion of rape and sexual assault

zed-azrael:

zed-azrael:

The conversation above took place on the wall of the facebook group, Questioning Slutwalk, which describes itself as a page focussed on analysing the motives and impacts of the Slutwalk Campaign.  Slutwalk, which originated in Toronto, Canada, is a worldwide civilian-run campaign that targets rape culture and asserts that a person’s dress, occupation, state of intoxication, etc. never makes sex without consent permissible.  Please note that this statement is not exclusive to the sexual assault of women by men — it covers the whole spectrum of genders because the issue here is not the gender of the victim: the bottom line is simply that rape is wrong and that we live in a rape culture that affects everyone regardless of gender.

However, instead of creating an open dialogue on the topic it claims to be centred on, the administrator and the group members of Questioning Slutwalk only post articles and commentary of an unforgivable misogynist, rape-apologist, and slut shaming ideology.  Questioning Slutwalk has created a rhetoric that (inaccurately) paints the Slutwalk Campaign as a movement that encourages and perpetuates the sexual abuse of men.  

Group members outright reject the reasoned opinions of others who try to explain the purpose of Slutwalk, proclaiming them to be female supremacists, misandrists, rape apologists, and deniers of male rape by women.  The group members despise women and think little of the notion of female consent, while simultaneously complaining about the oppression of men by women, rape culture as a creation of female supremacists, and the sexual objectification and abuse of men by women.

Now, I will never deny that men get sexually assaulted and raped by women.  It is a true piece of information and it is horrific.  It is also just as true and horrific a fact as the reality of the sexual assaults and rapes of women by men, or of men by men, or of any other imaginable gender combination.  I will never say that the sexual assault of men is not a huge problem; it is extremely underreported and it is traumatising to the victims. That said, I have a serious issue with the way this group conducts itself.  The administrator states that the page is supposed to be a safe place for male survivors, but the administrator completely disregards the hostility directed at both women and female survivors (genders that are outside of the binary are completely unaddressed).  Male survivors should and need to have a support group, but this is not the group they need.  This group simultaneously accuses the entire female population of being predators and attacks female survivors, viciously stating that they deserve sexual assault because of their actions, dress, etc.

This is completely unacceptable.

One cannot claim that the sexual assaults suffered by one specific group is any more traumatic or serious than another’s.  While the scale may vary, rape is still rape, and it is a horrible crime that should never be treated with such disrespect.

EDIT:  As of this morning, the conversation above has been deleted from Questioning Slutwalk’s page, which, according to Questioning Questioning Slutwalk, is a common occurrence.  Additionally, Chandrapal S Bhasker has blocked Sara and left another charming post.