1. aimmyarrowshigh:

    ashleeta:thelingerieaddict:

    I cannot believe Curvy Kate’s audacity to outright steal the work of a high school student for some insipid marketing message.

    Shame on you, Curvy Kate. Shame on you.

    Via: The Curvy Kate Facebook Page

    Original image via: Rosea Posey

    SIGNAL BOOST RIP THEM A NEW ONE TUMBLR!

    Not only steal the artwork, but steal it for the purpose of denigrating its message.

     
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    wtfniceguys:

thepandaspensieve:

yellow-dress:


NICE GUY ALERT
This dude comments on a video made about violence against women [TW for the video] and his valuable opinion is that “[abusive relationships] ruins great women for us nice guys”. 
Forget about women’s personal health and wellbeing after being in an abusive relationship, noooo, the most IMPORTANT thing is that they aren’t RUINED coz all those poor nice guys don’t want “ruined” women. Won’t someone please think of us nice guys!?!?11


Chris Hernandez of Platinum Jewelers does not care about women.  He thinks women in abuse relationships are ‘weak’ and cares more about not having to deal with their ‘drama’ than preventing the pain and suffering they might feel.
That’s Chris Hernandez, Store Manager at Platinum Jewelers.

Right, Chris Hernandez, women are only here as some sort of reward, and as we know, the “great” ones are few and far between. It’s why these “great women” need to leave abusive relationships and run to you, because you’re such a Nice Guy™. (not-so-great women, you can just stay where you are, apparently.) 
The worst part of this is the use of the word “ruin”. Like women are cars or shoes, and once we’ve been used up, well, we’re “ruined” and not worth anything anymore.  

    wtfniceguys:

    thepandaspensieve:

    yellow-dress:

    NICE GUY ALERT

    This dude comments on a video made about violence against women [TW for the video] and his valuable opinion is that “[abusive relationships] ruins great women for us nice guys”. 

    Forget about women’s personal health and wellbeing after being in an abusive relationship, noooo, the most IMPORTANT thing is that they aren’t RUINED coz all those poor nice guys don’t want “ruined” women. Won’t someone please think of us nice guys!?!?11

    Chris Hernandez of Platinum Jewelers does not care about women.  He thinks women in abuse relationships are ‘weak’ and cares more about not having to deal with their ‘drama’ than preventing the pain and suffering they might feel.

    That’s Chris Hernandez, Store Manager at Platinum Jewelers.

    Right, Chris Hernandez, women are only here as some sort of reward, and as we know, the “great” ones are few and far between. It’s why these “great women” need to leave abusive relationships and run to you, because you’re such a Nice Guy™. (not-so-great women, you can just stay where you are, apparently.) 

    The worst part of this is the use of the word “ruin”. Like women are cars or shoes, and once we’ve been used up, well, we’re “ruined” and not worth anything anymore.  

     
  3. Men’s rights groups, convinced that men are the biggest victims of modern society, have been busy attacking, defunding, and repealing laws that have been very effective at protecting women and lowering rates of domestic violence. They’re wrong and they’re dangerous and they need to be stopped.

    stfuconservatives:

    (trigger warning for generalized MRA bullshit)

    abaldwin360:

    (Boston Magazine) - If your last memory of men’s groups is Robert Bly and the boys banging on drums in the woods, you likely have no idea how the movement has mutated. Today, men’s rights groups tend to be organized around the belief that this country has launched a “war on fatherhood.” To them, the rise of feminism resulted in the fall of man, with males now being relegated to the periphery of society. In their eyes, the media portray men as feckless buffoons, legislative bodies unfairly target them, and biased courts blindly punish guiltless husbands. (Full disclosure: I was a producer of the 2011 documentary No Way Out But One, which examined the family court system.)

    Nationally, groups like Stop Abusive and Violent Environments (SAVE) and A Voice for Men have helped slow the renewal of the Violence Against Women Act—which would provide $660 million in funding for shelters, legal aid, and other programs to protect battered women—by convincing conservative House Republicans that the law shouldn’t include immigrants, Native Americans, and LGBT victims. SAVE claims the law is biased, noting in a fact sheet titled “Seven Key Facts About Domestic Violence” that “female initiation of partner violence is the leading reason for the woman becoming a victim of subsequent violence.” In other words: She was asking for it, officer.

    read the full article

     
  4. 20:59 20th Nov 2012

    Notes: 5835

    Reblogged from feminismisprettycool

    Tags: feminismmisogyny

    If women really were fated to be significantly more anxious than men, we would expect them to start showing this nervousness at a very young age, right? Yet precisely the opposite is true: According to the UCLA anxiety expert Michelle Craske, in the first few months of infants’ lives, it’s boys who show greater emotional neediness. While girls become slightly more prone to negative feelings than boys at two years (which, coincidentally, is the age at which kids begin learning gender roles), research has shown that up until age 11, girls and boys are equally likely to develop an anxiety disorder. By age 15, however, girls are six times more likely to have one than boys are.
    — 

    Taylor Clark (via mindovermatterzine)

    Wow: This quote I posted the other day now has 1100+ notes. I think the gendering of anxiety is really hitting home with a lot of people.

    (via mindovermatterzine)

    That, and the age thing really resonates with me because it is spot on from my experience.

    (via redefiningbodyimage)

    (Source: hellosugarmouse)

     
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  6. Poor nutrition and a sedentary lifestyle do cause health problems, in people of all sizes. This is why it’s so fucking crucial to separate the concept of “obesity” from “eating crap and not exercising.” The two are simply not synonymous — not even close — and it’s not only incredibly offensive but dangerous for thin people to keep pretending that they are. There are thin people who eat crap and don’t exercise — and are thus putting their health at risk — and there are fat people who treat their bodies very well but remain fat. Really truly.
    — Kate Harding (via lavenderlabia)

    (Source: kateharding.net)

     
  7. 09:10 19th Aug 2012

    Notes: 424157

    Reblogged from magical-girls

    Tags: misogynynice guys

    magical-girls:

resisterr:

afutureforthekrogan:

inspectingyourpickle:

ahh-yes-reapers:

wdya:

thesuperboymatch:

impulsivekidflash:


nothingsgoingtochange:

Someone give this guy a motherfuckin’ certificate.


I reblog every time





And that is why you can’t have nice things. Bitch.

What’s most depressing is that 23 people like the original status and no one liked the comment.

Friendzoning is so legit guise.

I think you missed the point. That girl was beign a complete bitch, she took his gifts and used him. 

But he was doing all of this, expecting something in return - a relationship.  He begged their science teacher to let him partner up with her - for what reason? For her to hang out with him. That was the only way he could see her hanging out with him and even then it failed. He continued to be “nice” to her all those years but why? What reason could possibly motivate him? He expected something from her. Whether that be a friendship or a romantic partnership, she made it very obvious she didn’t want any part of it. Should she have taken the shit he gave to her? It was free, and seemingly done without any kind of strings or expectations to return the favor in any way. I mean, this guy is as rotten as people believe the girl to be. He was relentless and gave her things expecting something in return. That is not nice. That is manipulative. And look at how he used it against her, when it was his own fault for pursuing someone who obviously took no interest in pursuing him back.
That’s why I mentioned friendzoning. This type of behaviour is always connected to the mythical event of friendzoning (aka demonizing women* for rejecting people who do “nice” things for them).

emphasis by me
“GIrls are so meeeaeaeaeaaaaaaAAANNNN THEY WONT GO OUT WITH ME !!”

It’s ridiculous because while he’s trying to show off how nice he is and what a jerk she is, he looks (to me) like an obsessive stalker who doesn’t know how to take a hint. She might be someone who just doesn’t know how to say no and hates confrontation. I can relate because I am someone like that, and it is mostly because I had a really negative experience with saying no (hint: guy didn’t back off and it became a traumatic event for me.) 
Listen nice guys (tm), the fact that you feel entitled enough to pursue a girl who clearly has no interest in you IS NOT HER PROBLEM. Toby’s not a nice guy. He just publicly humiliated this girl because she wouldn’t return his affections. She didn’t have to flat out say no to him. Her ACTIONS convey the fact that she was not interested.

    magical-girls:

    resisterr:

    afutureforthekrogan:

    inspectingyourpickle:

    ahh-yes-reapers:

    wdya:

    thesuperboymatch:

    impulsivekidflash:

    nothingsgoingtochange:

    Someone give this guy a motherfuckin’ certificate.

    I reblog every time

    And that is why you can’t have nice things. Bitch.

    What’s most depressing is that 23 people like the original status and no one liked the comment.

    Friendzoning is so legit guise.

    I think you missed the point. That girl was beign a complete bitch, she took his gifts and used him. 

    But he was doing all of this, expecting something in return - a relationship.  He begged their science teacher to let him partner up with her - for what reason? For her to hang out with him. That was the only way he could see her hanging out with him and even then it failed. He continued to be “nice” to her all those years but why? What reason could possibly motivate him? He expected something from her. Whether that be a friendship or a romantic partnership, she made it very obvious she didn’t want any part of it. Should she have taken the shit he gave to her? It was free, and seemingly done without any kind of strings or expectations to return the favor in any way. I mean, this guy is as rotten as people believe the girl to be. He was relentless and gave her things expecting something in return. That is not nice. That is manipulative. And look at how he used it against her, when it was his own fault for pursuing someone who obviously took no interest in pursuing him back.

    That’s why I mentioned friendzoning. This type of behaviour is always connected to the mythical event of friendzoning (aka demonizing women* for rejecting people who do “nice” things for them).

    emphasis by me

    “GIrls are so meeeaeaeaeaaaaaaAAANNNN THEY WONT GO OUT WITH ME !!”

    It’s ridiculous because while he’s trying to show off how nice he is and what a jerk she is, he looks (to me) like an obsessive stalker who doesn’t know how to take a hint. She might be someone who just doesn’t know how to say no and hates confrontation. I can relate because I am someone like that, and it is mostly because I had a really negative experience with saying no (hint: guy didn’t back off and it became a traumatic event for me.) 

    Listen nice guys (tm), the fact that you feel entitled enough to pursue a girl who clearly has no interest in you IS NOT HER PROBLEM. Toby’s not a nice guy. He just publicly humiliated this girl because she wouldn’t return his affections. She didn’t have to flat out say no to him. Her ACTIONS convey the fact that she was not interested.

    (Source: now-wecanthaveit)

     
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    sbyrdistheword:

fuckyeahsexpositivity:

My post about “reverse racism” and why it isn’t real.

This post is so amazing. It is very clear, easy-to-understand, and validates a great point.
Gonna be keeping this for future reference if people ever ask me why these reverse -isms don’t exist. Probably will make it my phone background, not gonna lie. :)

    sbyrdistheword:

    fuckyeahsexpositivity:

    My post about “reverse racism” and why it isn’t real.

    This post is so amazing. It is very clear, easy-to-understand, and validates a great point.

    Gonna be keeping this for future reference if people ever ask me why these reverse -isms don’t exist. Probably will make it my phone background, not gonna lie. :)

     
  9. tw: discussion of rape and sexual assault

    zed-azrael:

    zed-azrael:

    The conversation above took place on the wall of the facebook group, Questioning Slutwalk, which describes itself as a page focussed on analysing the motives and impacts of the Slutwalk Campaign.  Slutwalk, which originated in Toronto, Canada, is a worldwide civilian-run campaign that targets rape culture and asserts that a person’s dress, occupation, state of intoxication, etc. never makes sex without consent permissible.  Please note that this statement is not exclusive to the sexual assault of women by men — it covers the whole spectrum of genders because the issue here is not the gender of the victim: the bottom line is simply that rape is wrong and that we live in a rape culture that affects everyone regardless of gender.

    However, instead of creating an open dialogue on the topic it claims to be centred on, the administrator and the group members of Questioning Slutwalk only post articles and commentary of an unforgivable misogynist, rape-apologist, and slut shaming ideology.  Questioning Slutwalk has created a rhetoric that (inaccurately) paints the Slutwalk Campaign as a movement that encourages and perpetuates the sexual abuse of men.  

    Group members outright reject the reasoned opinions of others who try to explain the purpose of Slutwalk, proclaiming them to be female supremacists, misandrists, rape apologists, and deniers of male rape by women.  The group members despise women and think little of the notion of female consent, while simultaneously complaining about the oppression of men by women, rape culture as a creation of female supremacists, and the sexual objectification and abuse of men by women.

    Now, I will never deny that men get sexually assaulted and raped by women.  It is a true piece of information and it is horrific.  It is also just as true and horrific a fact as the reality of the sexual assaults and rapes of women by men, or of men by men, or of any other imaginable gender combination.  I will never say that the sexual assault of men is not a huge problem; it is extremely underreported and it is traumatising to the victims. That said, I have a serious issue with the way this group conducts itself.  The administrator states that the page is supposed to be a safe place for male survivors, but the administrator completely disregards the hostility directed at both women and female survivors (genders that are outside of the binary are completely unaddressed).  Male survivors should and need to have a support group, but this is not the group they need.  This group simultaneously accuses the entire female population of being predators and attacks female survivors, viciously stating that they deserve sexual assault because of their actions, dress, etc.

    This is completely unacceptable.

    One cannot claim that the sexual assaults suffered by one specific group is any more traumatic or serious than another’s.  While the scale may vary, rape is still rape, and it is a horrible crime that should never be treated with such disrespect.

    EDIT:  As of this morning, the conversation above has been deleted from Questioning Slutwalk’s page, which, according to Questioning Questioning Slutwalk, is a common occurrence.  Additionally, Chandrapal S Bhasker has blocked Sara and left another charming post.

     

     
  10. Let’s hurl some acid at those female Democratic senators.
    — 

    Jay Townsend, GOP Spokesman who went on a vicious online rant on Saturday. (via abaldwin360)

    I’m sure he meant it figuratively, but that doesn’t make it any less of a horrible, dickish thing to say.

    (via karethdreams)
     
  11. fuckyeahfeminists:

    blackenedbutterfly:

    cassket:

    Can you believe fat people? Just existingwilly-nilly all over the place, sometimes without even the courtesy to cloak their terrible bodies in heavy smocks and caftans. Some of them even have the gall to ask to be treated with basic human decency and compassion! Good thing we have Daniel Tosh & Co. to regulate this shit. On Monday, Tosh.0blogger Mike Pomranz posted a photograph of a fat woman wearing a gold bikini and trying to hail a cab in the rain. They framed it as a “caption contest,” inviting readers to submit their most delightful fat-shredding bon mots. Except, oops, the photo wasn’t theirs to post.

    It belongs to fat activist and artist Substantia Jones, and is a part of her Adipositivity Project, which seeks to normalize and affirm fat bodies. (Here is the photo in its original context.) Tosh.0 apparently pulled the photo from this website (don’t bother clicking unless you like dumb garbage), which cropped out the link at the bottom. Jones has contacted Comedy Central’s legal department, and as of a few minutes ago the page has been taken down.

    “Folks sharing Adipositivity photos,” Jones says, “as is regularly done all over Facebook and Tumblr, aids in the purpose of getting body positive images in front of as many eyes as possible. We dig that. But to steal someone else’s copyrighted material in order to use it in purveying bigotry and hate for profit? Not cool.” The woman in the photo—who, to everyone’s surprise, is an actual human being—is actress/model Janie Martinez. Jones describes the image as “conveying the bliss of being completely happy with your physical self, and boldly so, even in a world filled with ridicule.”

    Weirdly, the Tosh.0 commenters took the opposite approach. Before the page was pulled there were over a thousand semi-literate sample captions submitted, including:

    Beneath all of that skin is a beautiful vagina, waiting to be fucked….and waiting….and waiting

    She’ll get picked up soon, I see a garbage truck coming.

    And my personal favorite:

    Quick get me to occupy Wall Street, I hear they are raping people down there

    In case that last one isn’t clear, it’s implying fat women should be grateful to be raped—eager, even—because it’s obviously the only way their disgusting bodies will ever be touched by a man. Let me repeat. If you rape a fat woman, she will probably thank you for it.

    Oh, it’s “just a joke”? Good one. Good joke. It’s almost as good as when businesses “prank” fat people by not hiring them, or insurance companies do this old gag: “Knock knock?” “Who’s there?” “Not fucking health insurance if that’s what you’re looking for, fatty!” Ahhhhhhhh, jokes.

    Now, I don’t expect the Tosh.0 blog to be a bastion of intellectualism, but it’s disheartening to see this level of dehumanizing bullshit thriving under the umbrella of Comedy Central. The Daily Show is probably the most compelling and compassionate advocate for critical thinking on television—and the best evidence that you can be funny, political, and scathing without resorting to lazy stereotypes and hate speech. Meanwhile, Comedy Central’s website is actively baiting 14-year-old dumbasses to come up with the cruelest shit possible? Come on, bros. Be better people.

    Photo credit: Substantia Jones / Adipositivity Project.

    I have always hated this sad excuse for a man

    rage

    (Source: otipemisiwak)

     
  12. 16:40 23rd May 2012

    Notes: 90

    Reblogged from seriouslyamerica

    Tags: misandrymisogyny

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    seriouslyamerica:

rebloggable by request

    seriouslyamerica:

    rebloggable by request

     
  13. themanwiththebluebox:

I LOVE all this misogynistic bullshit on my Facebook feed.
Wonderful, really.
And that sexist joke, MAN, WHAT A KNEE SLAPPER.
GET BACK IN THE KITCHEN, AMIRITE?

    themanwiththebluebox:

    I LOVE all this misogynistic bullshit on my Facebook feed.

    Wonderful, really.

    And that sexist joke, MAN, WHAT A KNEE SLAPPER.

    GET BACK IN THE KITCHEN, AMIRITE?

     
  14. Women stick their necks out to say that something is fucked-up, hurtful, oppressive, scary: Misogynist. They do this knowing full well that there will be social consequences. Remarkably, we’re all familiar with the idea that the women who do this are bitches/ugly/humorless/scolds/delusional (“you see sexism everywhere”)/hysterical/oversensitive/insensitive/etc. We know that we take on most of the risk, in this conversation. We know that we have to be very careful in terms of what we say, and to whom; that we will be expected to choose our targets and our words very carefully, seem “understanding,” seem “empathetic,” make all the right allowances, be oh so very polite. We labor over our words, swallow our anger, push through our fear (and most women who bring themselves to make these kinds of statements are very afraid of reprisal; we know it happens, in overt and subtle ways, pretty much every time), construct these carefully tortured and worked-out sentences; we work at this shit.

    And then, after all that work, some dude makes a joke about how we need some dick — not even a joke he’s had to work on, really; that line’s been around forever — and everybody laughs, and it’s over. We get no apology. We get no consideration. We get no hearing. We get nothing. What this exchange ultimately proves to women, every time it’s played out, is that no matter how hard we work, we will never matter. We will never be heard. It’s just the same fucking thing, every day, like a punch to the gut: You think you can change shit? You think I care how you feel? You think I care what you think? No. Never. You think it fucking matters that you don’t like what I do to you? It doesn’t. I’m gonna fucking do what I want to you. Sit the fuck down, shut the fuck up, and take it. Or else I’m gonna tell everyone what a bitch you are, that you won’t play my game. My very special game, that I designed. And here are the rules for the game: You Lose.

    — 

    backleftlitz: “If Tegan and Sara Need Some Hard Dick, Hit Me Up!” - Sady Doyle

    fuck, fuck, fuck. this is so true it hurts. fuck. i promise you, this kind of bitterness and rage doesn’t fade.

    (via discosherpa)

    This happens over and over and over again. Male friends, relatives, coworkers, random observers and passers-by on the internet, whatever. If you encounter dudes at all, you are statistically likely to encounter this mindset from at least one of them. I know I do, usually about once a day.

    Then I come home, or go downstairs, or take off my headphones, and my female roommates do the same thing — and they wonder why I just wilt and stop talking. They don’t understand that it feels like being the last human being alive on earth. Like, “seriously? You’re not even in this with me? Which means … you’re not even in this with yourselves? Fuck. As a group, we really are fucked.”

    (via paleotrees)

    (Source: sadydoyle)

     
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