According to Psychology Today, research indicates that the following six keys will open the door to lasting happiness:
1. Unconditional self acceptance and self love.
2. A sense of interdependence, and connectedness with others.
3. Being awareness of our thoughts and feelings, and being able to maintain a sense of inner calm.
4. An acceptance that change is a normal part of life.
5. An acceptance that life is difficult, and no one is free from adversity and pain.
6. Having a sense of meaning and purpose in life.
Lesley Kinzel (via curvesahead)
I will always reblog this because it is so so important.
I just want to nail this to every stable surface I can find. I cannot count the amount of times that I’ve seen fat folks being encouraged, cajoled, and even forced into behaviors that would be recognized as disordered eating/exercising patterns in thin folks.
Pretty much everything that’s done on shows like The Biggest Loser would be called out as pro-ana/pro-orthorexia in a thin person. Exercising past the point that it hurts, to the point where you’re throwing up, even injuring yourself? Berating yourself because you didn’t lose ENOUGH weight this week? Constantly talking about how fat is weakness and thinness will make everything better, about how you can’t stand to be your current weight anymore? Emphasis on weight as a sign of how much control, strength, and worth you have? Viewing food as bad, as a temptation to sin? Constant sharing and talking about tips on how to minimize food intake, how to lose weight?
That sounds exactly like every pro-ana/pro-mia blog I’ve ever seen. It’s also what fat people are told we need to be doing to ourselves until we’re thin.
The reality is that fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise, and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an eating disorder — it’s a lifestyle change.
Your worth is not based on how you look or how you dress. It is not based on whether or not you look or act “promiscuously” or “pure”. It is not based on how many sexual partners you have had, who they were, or whether or not you were in a monogamous relationship with them. If you have had several sexual partners or very few sexual partners it will not affect the quality of the people you choose to be with and it will not affect anyone’s ability to love you. If someone truly loves you, they will love you regardless. Having a lot of sex or having no sex doesn’t mean you’re insecure. Making personal choices regarding your sex life doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means that you’re strong enough to make the choices that are best for you and your life.